-William Makepeace Thackeray in Vanity Fair.
“They sat us all down, girls and boys, in this horrible school hall. This tweed skirted, dykey sort of woman with short, cropped hair comes on, and tells us about the miracle of childbirth. Then this film comes on, which is a midwives educational film. There is a close-up of a woman having a baby, a close up straight up her vagina, and that’s all you see, and these are thirteen year old boys and girls, and its bloody and disgusting. Within thirty seconds two boys had fainted and the lights went on and they were carried out. I put my hands over my face because I realized I couldn’t watch this. I swear it traumatized me, I haven’t had children and I can’t look at anything to do with childbirth, it absolutely disgusts me.”
-Helen Mirren on a sex education film she saw as a teenager that changed her life forever. Though, she also adds that having a bad relationship with her own mother also influenced her desire to not have kids.
In fact, we’d especially like to thank those who chose not to become bad mothers or were responsible enough to know they just weren’t or aren’t ready for something so huge. It’s a choice that belongs to you and no shame should come with either decision. What you should feel is pride. After the fact, there are no accidents and kudos to you if you realized that a certain path wasn’t yours before you got to that particular fork in the road. To be a mother takes a kind of courage and strength and grace that is incredibly enviable. And we should all call or visit and spend time and maybe do something nice for our own mothers or someone you know who’s a mother and make them feel special if, for nothing else, this one day out of the year.